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November 15, 2017

How I asked my Bridesmaids

Ways to ask my bridesmaids

So I never actually thought I'd be the blogger who posts multiple posts about her wedding. And in many ways, I'm not. I already mentioned that I'm not the biggest fan of wedding planning, so I won't be posting these every week. That said, when there is something that I'm excited about I'll post it because I do want to remember the little things as time goes on. And so here I am. 

I was ridiculously excited to ask my best girls to stand with me on my big day and for some reason, felt really emotional about it. Really emotional - at least for me.

Now, this post should really be entitled how I asked my bridesmaids on a budget. Danny and I have some big expenses in the next - a trip to Romania this winter, another trip to Romania around May  next year (a month after our wedding) for his cousin's wedding, possibly a trip to Australia next year, maybe a house purchase ... and of course the wedding, which will be held at a hotel. You get the point... we are on a budget. But I did my best, working within our allotted funds for this, to give my girls a sweet gift in asking them to basically wait on my hand and foot for a day. #ikid

Ways to ask your bridesmaids

I'm big on useful gifts so when I started thinking about how I would ask my bridesmaids, I knew I really wanted to give a little token that they could use, along with a card and personal note (more on that later). About a week before I officially asked my girls, I sent them each a message with this image:

In retrospect, I should have used my wedding colours (burgundy, rose gold and gold), but I was just too excited to even think about that #bloggerfail. Anyway, on the night that we went out, we ordered two bottles of wine and I gave them each a box with a pearl bracelet, a nail colour with a wedding colour (burgundy) and a snicker candy. 

Here's how the boxes turned out:

I bought the jewellery boxes in a local store, mainly because they had the cushion for the pearl bracelet, and they were less expensive that an online buy (the budget is real). The only downside is that I didn't get them in my wedding colours, which I would have gotten had I done the online purchase. In the grand scheme of things, it didn't matter.

Close up picture of the pearls around the cushion that came with the box. I absolutely loved these and totally bought one for myself.

For some reason, the polishes photographed red, I promise they are burgundy though. And this is an example of budgeting in work. I chose China Glaze nail polish as opposed to Essie, which is what I really wanted to use. 

... and the snickers added. Im not a big chocolate fan, but I do love me some snickers, so this was a personal touch I knew each of my girls would get. It made the gift very - me.

Lastly, I picked up five small Hallmark cards. I placed a card in each box, at the very top, so that when it was opened it was the first thing that they would see.

bridesmaid gift ideas

Honestly, I think the cards were my favourite part. Initially I was going to purchase some generic "will you be my bridesmaid?" cards on Etsy. There were some super cute ones for sure, but as I said, I felt pretty emotional about asking my closest girls to be with me on my big day - a day that I wasn't even sure would ever happen - so I skipped the generic cards, bought these cards and wrote a note unique to each girl in it. 

While the full notes are private, and so I won't share the inside of the cards, I will share five quotes that I used, one for each girl, and why I used them for that particular bridesmaid:

"I found my mister, but I still need my sister" ~ for my friend who is my confidant and basically a sister. On rough days, I call her.
"I need something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue. Most of all, I need you" ~ for my college roommate and one of my most closest friends.
"I don't know who's doing my makeup and I'm not sure what I'll do with my hair, but what I do know is I need you there" ~ for one of my best girls who is a former model.
"I'm getting hitched and I need my bitch" ~ for my running buddy, former neighbour and notorious cussbud (seriously she puts sailors to shame ha!)
"I can't say I do without you" ~ for my ride or die for the last 15 years. I seriously couldn't do this without her.

I did find some of the quotes on Pinterest, but I made up a couple of them. I should note that my sister who lives in Australia is my matron of honour and so she hasn't yet received her gift. I'll be sure to share it of course. 

The tokens were small and inexpensive but the act of asking them meant so much that I wanted to document it. Seeing my girls tear up as they read those notes will stay with me forever.

What do you think?? I have another post coming up about hashtags - seriously, I need help choosing one.

Have a great Wednesday guys!!

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  1. What a GREAT idea..beautiful and perfect and LOVE the pearls. I bet they were overjoyed you asked you sweet lady! The cards were the perfect touch!! xo

  2. Those are super cute! I love that you wrote a different quote for each of them.

  3. That is such a wonderful idea. I love the pearls!! What a sweet way to ask your bridesmaids.

  4. Awwwww this is so sweet! I love how personalized they were. I bet they are all so excited to be apart of your big upcoming day!

  5. Love this idea, how sweet are you! I was terrible, and never truly asked my bridesmaids. I just told them I wanted to have them in my wedding. If I could do it all over, I'd go back and ask in a creative way like this <3
    Green Fashionista

  6. Really creative and thoughtful way to ask your bridesmaids to be by your side! I love the different sayings you used for each girl. The wedding colors you chose sound so pretty!

  7. Aw I love how they each got their own little phrase to show how they are special to you in their own little way!

  8. aw these are so cute and i love the individual quotes! i think i wasn't super into pinterest or it wasn't as popular when i got married because i literally just asked my girlfriends, at a party haha. very exciting stuff :)

  9. This is the cutest way to ask your bridesmaids! Congratulations!

    Vivian | LIVE IN LOVE
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  10. This is such a cute way on asking your girls to be your bridesmaid. Thanks for sharing.

  11. How fun and creative! Love these cute gift boxes and all of the quotes. I didn't even have bridesmaids so I guess it's lucky that I didn't fail them by doing something completely UN-clever!

  12. Aw I love the personalized quotes for each woman. Such a personal touch!

  13. This is so cute! I love that you sent something they'll actually use-- and I love how you personalized the statements for each of them.

  14. aw, that's so sweet and awesome! i just called my bridesmaids and said "hey you want to be my bridesmaid? i love you so let's do this!" lol.

  15. This is such a creative and personalized way to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. I love it!

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  17. I love the pearls very much!! Great and beautiful idea.

  18. I love this idea and you executed it well - personal yet effective.
    Now, is the nail polish color the same shade as the wedding theme? You did say it was burgundy although it does look like red in the pics :-)

    1. haha its burgundy in real life - no clue why it photographed red lol

  19. I'm getting hitched and I need my bitch. Hahahahaha that is my favorite!!!! Love how everything came together, it is so fun and I bet they lived it!

  20. Such sweet gifts for them! You definitely put thought and care into how you asked them! Since our wedding was planned in 2 months haha I didn't have bridesmaids, I asked my aunt to be my matron-of-honor--which was actually pretty cool because I'd been the flower girl at her wedding some 16 years before, and we got married in the same church, so we have pictures of the two of us from her wedding and from mine in the same place.

  21. You did such a wonderful job asking them to be part of your special day! I love the beautiful pearl bracelets you found! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston


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